The Power of Putting On The Brakes

 

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I know it when I feel it.

It usually begins with this odd ringing noise in my head.

If it continues, it might build into this energy in my body that makes me feel like I might combust at any moment!

When I get this feeling now, I recognize that I am entering the territory of overwhelm; a territory that many with ADHD visit with some regularity.

In the past, I might have spent a fair amount of time trying to get something done or, alternatively, trying to decide what that something should be. Usually, I just ended up wasting time. And the pressure just kept building – I could not think coherently.

It took me a long time. But I have figured out that the best thing to do when I’m in this zone is to stop and step away.

 

Stop the Spin

Sometimes the best course of action is really to do nothing. This may seem counterintuitive when you have too much on your plate already.

Last Friday, all I could think about was everything I had to do. I started to go into “spin cycle” until I recognized what was going on.

Then I decided to go to the gym for an hour; riding the bike and watching a game show (can’t remember the name) did the trick.

I came back and the “spin cycle” was done. I was able to think more clearly and creatively, which helped me to come up with a workable plan of action.

Sometimes, it is important to completely disengage from what you are doing.

What do you do when you are on spin?

 

Be In The Present

Should I have sent the email earlier? What did he mean when he said that? What if he does not call? What if the movers do not come? What if the neighbors are loud, and I can’t work?

Occupying the past and future is another form of spin that robes us of our ability to be present.

Sometimes I just have too many thoughts; I have not reached the point where I am ready to combust. But I do need to bring myself back to the present moment in order to attend.

For these times, I take a minute to meditate, if only for a minute. I quiet my mind, and remind myself to focus on the present moment .

You can think of it as sitting quietly, if the thought of meditating makes you want to run for the hills.

I often do this when I am transitioning between client calls or other tasks. Here is what I do:

1.    sit upright in my chair
2.    relax my body
3.    close my eyes
4.    breathe deeply in and out
5.    repeat a word, like shalom (peace in Hebrew)

This helps me to be present for my clients or to attend to my task at hand.

What do you do when you need to quiet your mind and your body?

 

See Alternative More Clearly

Working harder isn’t always the answer. As an adult with ADHD, your head can be a busy place.

Sometimes you need to stop and clear out the clutter in order to work more efficiently and effectively.

 

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If you would like to talk about your specific needs, and how I may be able to support you, request a complimentary Strategy Session.

I look forward to hearing from you!

 

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4 Comments

  1. Fran Pickus
    Posted June 25, 2011 at 1:52 am | Permalink

    Hi Marla!
    Great, as usual!! I definitely can relate! I catastrophosize very well! And play the “What if?” game too!! Sometimes I’m immobilized and do nothing and then stress that I did nothing!! Sometimes I consciously take a break–eat? (Should probably go to the gym instead!!) Or watch meaningless TV or shows I recorded. Once I get a plan together (schedule) I’m good–then I know when I’m doing what! I don’t meditate–but I LOVE the idea of sitting quietly and saying “Shalom!!” This I CAN do–very doable–for Any situation!! Can’t wait to be stressed and use it!! LOL
    Fran

    • Marla
      Posted June 27, 2011 at 11:04 am | Permalink

      Hi Fran,
      Hope sitting quietly helps when you need it. Simple is often the best; make it doable, as you pointed out. Marla

  2. Margaret
    Posted June 29, 2011 at 12:18 pm | Permalink

    Hi Marla
    Really good article!! When I head into overwhelm, my anxiety also goes sky high. I feel like my thoughts are on a merry-go-round, and I am running against the merry-go-round, and I can run faster, but still can’t get anywhere – just go over the same ground again and again. For me, I actually visualize the merry-go-round, and see myself stepping off of it, and sitting quietly on a bench on the grass, watching the carosel horses go by. It calms me, and allows to think more clearly, so I can try DIFFERENTLY instead of HARDER!

    I also take”mental coffee breaks” a few times a day – I go someplace quiet where I won’t be interrupted for a few minutes (I go into the bathroom if I have to!!) and breathe deeply, and try to completely clear my mind – not as easy as it sounds when you have ADHD. However, I find that doing it proactively helps keep me out of overwhelm.

    • Marla
      Posted June 29, 2011 at 1:19 pm | Permalink

      Hi Margaret, Thanks for sharing your strategies! I agree that being proactive and doing what works for you is far better than just trying harder. Take care, Marla

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