“How do I respond to this situation?” “How can I feel less overwhelmed?” “Where do I want to focus my mental energy/thoughts?” These are some of the questions that Adults with ADHD ask themselves on a regular basis. Having strategies that will allow you to slow down and center yourself are helpful in answering these and similar questions. ADHD and The Wandering Mind As an adult with ADHD you know that your challenge is… Continue reading…
ADD and Task Completion: Stop Focusing on Your Goals
As far as goals go, looking for a job is a common one for most, if not all, of us. Remember when you have looked for jobs in the past? Perhaps you are looking for one now. There are so many moving parts: resumes, cover letters, job sites, networking, books, etc. Arghhh!! When faced with this kind of task, like many of you, I can easily become overwhelmed. It just seems like too much to… Continue reading…
ADD – ADHD: Do You Know How To Prevent Overwhelm?
Yes, our brains can hold information. If you can give me time, I can rattle off dates in US History to impress you at a party. This is not very helpful, though, if I forget milk for breakfast, and we want to eat cereal in the morning. It is not very helpful, if I forget to pay my registration for my car on time. It is certainly not helpful, if I forget to contact… Continue reading…
What if “It” Were Possible?
Holding Judgment Whenever I go to a movie I have to remind myself to suspend my disbelief. When I catch myself thinking something like, “that would never happen,” I stop. And remind myself that, if I could let go, and immerse myself in the moment, something may resonates with me. If I allow this to happen, I might feel differently or think differently for a bit. Maybe I just have a really good laugh. When… Continue reading…
ADD and Transitions: Do You Know How to Make the Ride Smoother?
Transitions of any type can be challenging for many with ADD. On a micro level, the challenge is shifting focus from one task to another. With the onset of Fall, a different type of transition came to mind for me. This type of change comes with a significant occurrence in one’s life, like moving, starting a new job, beginning a new relationship or starting school. Just this past weekend, I was talking to another… Continue reading…
Who Else Wants to be Productive?
Last week my daughter started 3 weeks of overnight camp. As I am self employed, caring for my daughter is one of the few activities that put boundaries around my work. If you have read any of my writing before, you know that I work hard at making values based decisions. And caring for my daughter is one of my highest priorities. So, when the reason for putting aside my work is to step into… Continue reading…
It Could Be Easier…
Do you have hidden strengths? D you have hidden weaknesses? Do you have goals? If you answered “yes” to these questions, it is time to do a little excavating. If your strengths are hidden, you cannot leverage them in order to use them effectively in reaching your goals. Likewise, if you do not know your weaknesses, you cannot improve or manage them so that they do get in your way.
Discover Where Your Time Flies
Do you know how you spend your time? Many with ADD find that time is somewhat elusive. That is, there is now and not now (later). The first step in getting a handle on time is to discover how you are spending it now. Dr. Neil Fiore, in his book, THE NOW HABIT, suggest keeping a log for at least three days of how you actually spend your time. After doing this, you can better… Continue reading…
Does Your Story Hold You Back?
I should be able to get ready in 15 minutes. I should be able to find my keys. I should be able to get to the meeting by 10:30. I should be able to handle all of my tasks. Fighting What Is On occasion, I observe my clients and myself fighting reality by holding onto a story, like those above. By continuing to believe that we should be able to do something, we may resist… Continue reading…
Do You Know How To Take Risk?
If you have ADD, you might be saying, “Of course I know how to take risk! Impulsive is my middle name!” Ba-da-bum! Taking calculated risks and being impulsive are animals of a different stripe, however. According to Merriam-Webster, a calculated risk is: “planned or contrived to accomplish a purpose.” Hmm… planning. Not a very thrilling prospect, I know. Being somewhat prone to impulsiveness, I know that it can sometimes work to my advantage. I… Continue reading…