ADDed Perspective Blog

Usually I reserve book recommendations for the recommendation section. But William Ury's  book, The Power of a Positive No : How to Say No and Still Get to Yes, is potentially so transformative that I wanted to share with you a bit of what I distilled after reading it and using the suggested strategies.

The step by step process he sets out can help you set your boundaries (say NO)  based on your values and needs, while still retaining  your relationships.

If you have ADD and impulsiveness is a challenge for you, then you likely have experienced the effects of communicating  in a way that not only damages your relationships, but does not get you what you want.

You may know what you want or don't want in a given situation. What you also need is an effective strategy that would enhance your chances of actually achieving that objective.

If you have ever had trouble setting boundaries ( and who hasn't?),  I encourage you to read this book.

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This past week I was faced with a complex situation involving my daughter where I needed to think clearly, dispassionately and swiftly.

I wanted to share a bit of this with you because I know how challenging it can be for someone with ADD to process this way in the best of circumstances.

Lessons Learned

In my efforts to respond to this, I learned or confirmed some important lessons.

1. It was important to talk to people who I respected, as they offered multiple perspectives that I was not able to see in the moment.

2. In talking to many people, professionals , family and friends, I clarified all of the various important issue that needed to be addressed.

3. Over the course of many conversations, at each Read More