ADDed Perspective Blog

Usually I reserve book recommendations for the recommendation section. But William Ury's  book, The Power of a Positive No : How to Say No and Still Get to Yes, is potentially so transformative that I wanted to share with you a bit of what I distilled after reading it and using the suggested strategies.

The step by step process he sets out can help you set your boundaries (say NO)  based on your values and needs, while still retaining  your relationships.

If you have ADD and impulsiveness is a challenge for you, then you likely have experienced the effects of communicating  in a way that not only damages your relationships, but does not get you what you want.

You may know what you want or don't want in a given situation. What you also need is an effective strategy that would enhance your chances of actually achieving that objective.

If you have ever had trouble setting boundaries ( and who hasn't?),  I encourage you to read this book.

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Transitions of any type can be challenging for many with ADD. On a micro level, the challenge is shifting focus from one task to another. With the onset of Fall, a different type of transition came to mind for me. 

This type of change comes with a significant occurrence in one’s life, like moving, starting a new job, beginning a new relationship or starting school.

Just this past weekend, I was talking to another mom whose daughter was about to start college over a thousand miles away. It was clearly a life altering event for both daughter and mother.

While not quite as momentous as going to college and only .6 miles away, my daughter starting middle school will certainly be a change in standard operating procedure in our house.

As I was having the conversation with the other mom, I became aware that I was avoiding thinking at all about school. Usually, I want to be "uber" prepared. So, why did I not want to go clothes and supply shopping? Why was I not encouraging her to review her math? I haven't even got her the book she needs to have read in two weeks…

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