In my last entry I wrote about using a seven step process to proactively address concerns over conversations, rather than spending needless time ruminating. Ruminating, no doubt, is one of the hallmark symptoms of AD/HD.
You can call it ruminating, worrying, cogitating, pondering or whatever else you want.
Recently, I was in the midst of preparing for our Passover Seder, which was taking place at my house. I found myself becoming overwhelmed with all of the details, as they kept swirling about in my head. As I was becoming overwhelmed, I became anxious, irritable and stuck. Can you think of times when you have felt like this?
So, what is next when you find yourself in this place?
When you become aware, as I did, that all you are doing is running the movie over again and again in your head, it is time to get out the remote and hit pause.
Then take yourself out of the frame, observe what is going on and ask yourself:
1. What am I really worried about?
In this case, I was worried about not getting everything done in time.
2. What can I do to allay this worrying?
I made a day to day schedule of what needed to get done, from setting the table, buying the gifts for finding the afikomen to cooking the meal.
I then called my sister to go over the timing of cooking the meal.
All of a sudden it felt doable.
By figuring out what was worrying me and, more importantly, taking steps to minimize my worry, I was able to stop the tapes from playing over and over.
What tapes to you have playing in your head, and what can you do about it?