ADHD adults make mistakes just like everyone else. You will do something whether it is “an action, decision, or judgment that produces an unwanted or unintentional result.” And you may wonder on occasion, “How can I stop screwing up?!” Well, of course, it’s impossible to avoid making mistakes. You know this. Yet, you may beat yourself up whenever you make one. Maybe even going into a shame spiral. And, when you’re feeling like this,… Continue reading…
Do You Want to Get Rid of Your Negative Thoughts and Feelings?
Learning what to do with your negative thoughts and feelings and treating your ADHD go hand in hand. I know you want to learn how to work with your ADHD so you can leverage your strengths and manage the ADHD symptoms that get in your way. And sometimes you need to exert control to do this. For example, you might try to temper your impulsiveness, avoid distractions, manage your stress, decrease your perfectionism, etc…. Continue reading…
Here’s What You Need to Know About ADHD Coaching
You want to know how ADHD coaching helps adults. Maybe you’ve decided you want to work with a coach to treat your ADHD. Alternatively, you might just be curious as you begin considering your options for treatment. In either case, you want to know the specific benefits you will receive if you take this route, right? And you want to know more than, “They’ll help you get your stuff done.” Of course, there is a… Continue reading…
What ADHD Adults Need To Know to Find a Good Therapist
Treating adult ADHD with therapy can be a critical component of a ADHD treatment plan. Yet, if you are considering therapy, you may be unsure what criteria to use. It can be overwhelming trying to choose the right therapist, for sure. And I know you want to find someone who is a good fit. Because you don’t want to waste your limited time, energy, and money, right? Of course, there is no certainty you’ll… Continue reading…
Confused Whether You Need Therapy or ADHD Coaching?
Trying to decide whether you need therapy or ADHD Coaching? Maybe your ADHD diagnosis is recent and you’re curious about what support is available. Alternatively, maybe you’ve known about your ADHD for quite a while and have just reached your tipping point. That is, you’ve gotten by using whatever compensating strategies you have in your toolbox. Until now. In either case, whether a new or old diagnosis, you’re tired of working so hard, right?… Continue reading…
ADHD Adults Who Want to Be Proactive Use These Self-Talk Strategies
Yes, ADHD adults who want to be proactive use the self-talk strategies I describe below. But it’s not because they’re aspiring to have a rosy — positive — outlook on life. Sure, having a positive perspective can help you be proactive. When you’re in a positive frame of mind it’s easier to do what’s important to you. But what happens when you’re trying to put on a false face? Yes, I know in some… Continue reading…
What Doesn’t Motivate ADHD Adults to Follow Through
I know you’re curious as to what will help ADHD adults execute better. But have you ever wondered what doesn’t motivate ADHD adults? Recently I was talking to a client about adopting more helpful self-talk when faced with starting a task that was not intrinsically interesting to her. She commented that it sounded a little hokey and, besides, “I’m used to using more “forceful” self-talk,” she said. I noted that doesn’t seem to… Continue reading…
Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD? Confused about what to do now?
Receiving a diagnosis of ADHD as an adult can be, well, unsettling, to say the least. While there isn’t a specific roadmap you can access to guide you on your journey as you learn how to work with this new diagnosis, there are best practices you can use to help you on your way. I know you want to figure out what to do. Now. But, before you dive in full speed ahead, take a… Continue reading…
You Matter! ADHD Adults Need to Be Seen and Heard
All ADHD adults need and deserve validation — a sense of being heard and seen. But you may feel shame when you don’t get as much as your non-ADHD peers. You may also feel shame because you’ve internalized the common wisdom that you shouldn’t need to look to others for validation. But you do, don’t you? According to the belief that you shouldn’t look outside yourself for validation, you will do damage to your sense… Continue reading…
2 Little Known Strategies ADHD Adults Need to Manage Emotions
Recently, a subscriber asked me about “managing emotional dysregulation in ADHD adults” in response to my query: “What is the topic about ADHD that most interest you right now? And, like many ADHD adults, this topic may be of great interest to you, too. As the inability to regulate emotions can have pernicious results in your life, for sure. But, if we were to probe deeper, your curiosity is likely about more than just regulating… Continue reading…