(originally published May 2, 1013, Updated July 17, 2020) I know, as an adult with ADHD, you are all too familiar with what it feels like to be overwhelmed. ADHD overwhelm can seem like an ever-present companion, one you’d like to take a break from, right? But maybe you’re not sure how to do this — reduce these feelings. So, you continue to ride the waves until they inevitably come crashing down on… Continue reading…
Do You Have These 4 Mindsets ADHD Adults Need for Success?
(originally published July 26, 2013, updated May 31, 2020) Mindset matters for ADHD adults! And there are certain mindsets ADHD adults need. But when you first think of how to manage your ADHD you probably think of needing new strategies and tools, right? No doubt, you probably do need new tools in your toolbox, literal, and figurative ones. And, amongst these tools, you likely need to learn how to employ new strategies, too. Have you… Continue reading…
Are You Using These Strategies to Persist When You’re Bored?
Do you know these 5 techniques ADHD adults use when bored? First, if you haven’t already, check out my last post The 3 Facts You Want to Know About ADHD and Boredom. In that article, I covered the reasons why ADHD adults may feel bored more often and more acutely than their neurotypical peers. All good information to help validate your experience. I bet, after reading that, you were really curious. Now you want to… Continue reading…
The 3 Facts You Want to Know About ADHD and Boredom
If you’re an adult with ADHD, then it’s likely you’re all too familiar with the feeling of boredom. It’s that restless feeling, sometimes intense and almost painful when you just don’t feel engaged. And you need to find something interesting to do. Now! If you can find something meaningful to you to do in those moments, then you’re golden. But what if your boredom leads you to say something or act in a way you… Continue reading…
Do ADHD Adults Get Easily Frustrated and Angry?
So, you’re wondering why ADHD adults get easily frustrated and angry, right? If this is one of your challenges, I’m not surprised. As it is often a topic of discussion in my individual and group coaching sessions. In fact, recently a client asked whether it was “possible for frustration not to be their dominant emotion.” And that questioning prompted me to ponder, once again, why ADHD adults may become angry and frustrated much easier… Continue reading…
How to Move on Successfully After Making a Mistake
ADHD adults make mistakes just like everyone else. You will do something whether it is “an action, decision, or judgment that produces an unwanted or unintentional result.” And you may wonder on occasion, “How can I stop screwing up?!” Well, of course, it’s impossible to avoid making mistakes. You know this. Yet, you may beat yourself up whenever you make one. Maybe even going into a shame spiral. And, when you’re feeling like this,… Continue reading…
Do You Want to Get Rid of Your Negative Thoughts and Feelings?
Learning what to do with your negative thoughts and feelings and treating your ADHD go hand in hand. I know you want to learn how to work with your ADHD so you can leverage your strengths and manage the ADHD symptoms that get in your way. And sometimes you need to exert control to do this. For example, you might try to temper your impulsiveness, avoid distractions, manage your stress, decrease your perfectionism, etc…. Continue reading…
You Matter! ADHD Adults Need to Be Seen and Heard
All ADHD adults need and deserve validation — a sense of being heard and seen. But you may feel shame when you don’t get as much as your non-ADHD peers. You may also feel shame because you’ve internalized the common wisdom that you shouldn’t need to look to others for validation. But you do, don’t you? According to the belief that you shouldn’t look outside yourself for validation, you will do damage to your sense… Continue reading…
2 Little Known Strategies ADHD Adults Need to Manage Emotions
Recently, a subscriber asked me about “managing emotional dysregulation in ADHD adults” in response to my query: “What is the topic about ADHD that most interest you right now? And, like many ADHD adults, this topic may be of great interest to you, too. As the inability to regulate emotions can have pernicious results in your life, for sure. But, if we were to probe deeper, your curiosity is likely about more than just regulating… Continue reading…
How to Be Resilient When Your ADHD Trips You Up
You know it can be hard to make the changes you want to work better with your ADHD. You also know you will need to put effort into maintaining these changes. But you may also hold the perspective exemplified in the quote below from a client (used with permission): I have all these tools, to do list, etc. I need to perfect the art of using them. My ADD seems to be flaring up a… Continue reading…