{"id":8373,"date":"2014-12-26T14:03:54","date_gmt":"2014-12-26T19:03:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marlacummins.com\/stage2026\/?p=8373"},"modified":"2025-06-15T10:53:52","modified_gmt":"2025-06-15T14:53:52","slug":"change-your-adhd-brain-manage-anger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marlacummins.com\/stage2026\/change-your-adhd-brain-manage-anger\/","title":{"rendered":"Change Your Brain and Manage Your Anger"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

A couple of weeks ago I was driving through the Boston area during rush hour. I normally try to avoid driving in rush hour. But my parents were visiting, and we were going to my sister\u2019s for dinner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We experienced what you would imagine happens during rush hour in any large urban area. Traffic moving at a snail\u2019s pace… So, arriving at my sister\u2019s 1\u00bd hours after leaving home was not a surprise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, when stuck in traffic I try to hold the perspective that it is what it is. And it is also a good time to listen to NPR. If my daughter is up for it, we might even have a conversation sparked by one of the shows. I\u2019d say that is a good use of time!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But the women who rolled down her window and started screaming at me, as I tried to merge at the off ramp, was definitely in a different place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, I also experienced another unfortunate side affect of rush hour, besides slow traffic. Road rage<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It seemed to me that her logical brain<\/strong> had gone offline<\/strong>, and her emotional brain <\/strong>had taken over<\/strong>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Your Frontal Lobe Goes Offline<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The primary job<\/strong> of the frontal lobe or logical brain is to take in and determine how to use information that is located elsewhere in the brain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

More specifically, the frontal lobe carries out higher mental processes<\/strong>, such as thinking, decision making, and planning. When it is online and working it can help<\/strong> keep our emotions under control.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But when we are angry<\/strong> we may slip into primitive thinking \u2013 survival mode<\/strong>. Our limbic system (more below) kicks in and our frontal lobe shuts down and is not open to new information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In essence, our frontal lobe goes offline<\/strong>…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And, because of the imbalance of neurotransmitters<\/strong>, particularly dopamine and norepinephrine, the circuitry in the frontal lobe does not function well in those with ADHD. Because of this imbalance the messages carried by the neurotransmitters between the neurons that would allow for the various executive functions to occur, including controlling emotions, are effectively interrupted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This means that making sure your logical brain stays in charge is particularly hard<\/strong> when you have ADHD<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your Emotional Brain Takes Over<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The limbic system<\/strong> or the emotional brain is the feeling center of the brain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is also the central area in the brain where information is stored from previous experiences so we can determine whether incoming stimuli <\/strong>is a threat<\/strong> or not,<\/strong> and decide whether to approach, avoid or attack<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we identify <\/strong>a stimulus as something to fear, <\/strong>the fight or flight reaction<\/strong> may occur. Road rage is a good example of the instinct to fight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman in my story \u201ccouldn\u2019t\u201d let me merge into her lane of traffic. She was angry. And I know underneath this anger was fear.<\/strong> Fear that I would hit her? Fear that she would be late? Fear that I was taking advantage of her by getting in front of her?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t know… But it appeared to me that her limbic system or emotional brain, had taken over. It is possible that her memory <\/strong>of people merging in front of her during rush hour was cause for attack.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if her memory of people merging in front of her did not signal danger? <\/strong>More on this below…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Limbic System and ADHD<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Like the frontal lobe, there is an imbalance of dopamine and norepinephrine in the limbic system of people with ADHD<\/strong>, which can further compromise<\/strong> the ability to manage anger<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, when you are angry, like neurotypical people, your frontal lobe may shut down and your limbic system kicks in, leading to, among other events, fight or flight.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But you may be even<\/strong> more emotionally volatile<\/strong> and generally have more difficulty<\/strong> in regulating<\/strong> your emotions<\/strong> because of the impaired neurotransmitter activity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Getting Your Frontal Lobe Back Online<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Knowing all of the above, if emotional volatility and anger, <\/strong>specifically, is one of the ADHD symptom that is particularly problematic for you<\/strong>, the key is to use a strategy consistently to manage it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One such strategy is the STOP Method<\/strong>, briefly outlined below:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. STOP<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first step is to be aware of what happens in your body when you are angry. So you will know when it is happening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Think<\/strong>
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Then think about how your angry thoughts are controlling your body, and decide whether the thoughts are accurate<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But this can be hard to do in the moment when you have ADHD, as your brain is more easily hijacked. You just can\u2019t think you way out of anger. If you\u2019ve tried to do this, you know it usually does not work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n