The cost of adhd perfectionism
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The Cost of Perfectionism When You Have ADHD

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Blog

  A perfectionist is someone who is unyielding in their pursuit of unrealistically high standards. So, you may wonder what an unrealistically high standard is. Good question. Whether a standard is unrealistically high depends on your capacity and the context. Here are a couple of examples. You might think it doesn’t make sense to strive for such unrealistic goals. However, a perfectionist does not think the goals are unrealistic. ADHD and Perfectionism If you are a perfectionist, you may have come to be a perfectionist in part because of your ADHD. One way this may happen is when you’re trying to make up for actual or perceived failures in your past. Now you want to get it just right!  While there may be many root…

How To Manange Rumination With ADHD
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How To Manange Rumination With ADHD

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Podcast

DESCRIPTION: Rumination can take a lot of time and energy unless you know how to counter it. Here are some strategies to help you manage it. KEY TAKEAWAYS: RESOURCES: Book: Writing to Heal by James Pennebaker TRANSCRIPT: (00:07): You’ve tuned into Scattered Focused, Done Re-Imagining Productivity with ADHD, a podcast for ADHD, adults like you who want to learn how to adopt the best strategies, tools, and skills to get your essential work done in a way that works with the way your brain is wired. I’m Marla Cummins, and I’m glad you’re joining me today on this journey to re-Imagining Productivity with ADHD, so you can get what is important to you done without trying to do it like everyone else. (00:39): Rumination goes…

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ADHD & Finding Your Motivation When You’re Not Interested

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Blog

For ADHD adults you know it’s easier to follow through on tasks that interest you.  But what about tasks that don’t interest you? If you can delegate in some way or drop tasks that don’t interest you, you should do that. But what if this isn’t possible? It’s going to take a little bit of extra work to follow through on these tasks.  The following strategies can help you do this. What About The Task Turns You Off? First, figure out what about the task turns you off. Here are some possibilities: Once you’ve figured out why you don’t want to do a task, the next step is to figure out what you can do address those challenges and follow through on those task that…

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Tips For Managing Worry and ADHD

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Podcast

DESCRIPTION: Too much worry comes at a cost. Here are the techniques you can use to put your worry to work so you can manage it. KEY TAKEAWAYS: RESOURCES: TRANSCRIPT: (00:00): Do you ever feel like your worry takes over sometimes and maybe you even hyperfocus on it. But you’d really like to stop? You’ve tuned into Scattered Focused, Done Re-Imagining Productivity with ADHD, a podcast for ADHD adults like you who want to learn how to adopt the best strategies, tools, and skills to get your essential work done in a way that works with the way your brain is wired. I’m Marla Cummins, and I’m glad you’re joining me today on this journey to re-imagining Productivity with ADHD, so you can get what…

Adult with ADHD feeling like an imposter at work
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4 Strategies ADHD Adults Need to Stop Feeling Like an Impostor

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Podcast

DESCRIPTION: Impostor Syndrome is common for ADHD adults. And, if you don’t address it, it may be holding you back. Ready to change that? KEY TAKEAWAYS: RESOURCES: Website Impostor Syndrome Institute TRANSCRIPT: 00:03: Have you ever wondered what if people find out, I really don’t have what it takes. I don’t know how I’ve gotten it this far without them finding out. If you have, you’re not alone. Imposter syndrome is pervasive and it can hold you back. But you can turn that around. You’ve tuned into Scattered Focused, Done –  Re-Imagining Productivity with ADHD, a podcast for ADHD adults like you who want to learn how to adopt the best strategies, tools, and skills to get your essential work done in a way that…

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Are You Ready to Create an ADHD Compatible Life Free of Shoulds?

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Podcast

DESCRIPTION: If the rules you are following right now are getting in the way of creating the type of ADHD-compatible life you envision you can change that. And you’ll want to if you want to live a life that’s in alignment with your values and allows you to more easily reach your goals. Here’s how to do that. KEY TAKEAWAYS: We all have internalized subconscious rules we follow. Some of these rules are helpful. However, some rules you learned along the way, which may have been helpful earlier, may no longer serve you. To work well with your ADHD, you’ll want to be aware of your rules. And keep those that help you, and drop those that don’t. You can do this by learning strategies…

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Can ADHD Adults Really Become Less Susceptible to Feeling Rejected?

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Podcast

DESCRIPTION: It’s true that ADHD adults can be more susceptible to feeling rejected and feel the rejection more intensely. But there are proven strategies to work with these feelings to reduce the intensity and times you feel rejected. Listen to see how you can do this. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Feelings of rejection can be stronger for ADHD adults. Some ADHD adults may have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and need medication to treat this condition. ADHD adults not suffering from RSD can work on shifting their mindset to manage their sensitivity to rejection. It is also necessary to consider any comorbid conditions in designing a treatment plan. Some may find it helpful to work with a therapist or ADHD coach to address their rejection sensitivity. RESOURCES: Article: New…

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ADHD Adults Need These 5 Mindsets to Be Successful

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Blog

(originally published July 26, 2013, updated April 14, 2022) When you think about whether you can learn and maintain changes to feel more in control and less overwhelmed you may wonder if it’s possible. After all, you’ve been trying to make these changes for a long time. And you’ve had varying degrees of success. Maybe not enough, yet. So, can an old dog learn new tricks? Yes, definitely! And you can, too.? Sure, you might need additional knowledge to make these changes. But I think you probably know much of what you need already. What you might need, though, is a shift in your mindset. Think about it. You have had many years of formal schooling. You’ve also picked up additional skills and knowledge to navigate your personal and professional life since….

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Do You Know Why Self-Compassion Is Key to Effectively Manage ADHD?

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Podcast

DESCRIPTION: If you want to manage your ADHD and reach your goals with greater ease, you’ll want to learn how to be more self-compassionate. And you can do that with the techniques I share in this podcast. KEY TAKEAWAYS: You may be compassionate to others, but not to yourself. Self-compassion is a critical part of managing your ADHD. The three elements of self-compassion are: accepting your feelings, being kind to yourself, and recognizing you are not alone Self-compassion will not only help you feel more grounded but will make the journey towards your goals easier. RESOURCES: BOOKS: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT  by Russ…

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Here’s How to Stop Your ADHD Anger From Ruining Your Relationships

ByMarla Cummins ADHD Emotional Regulation, Podcast

DESCRIPTION: Anger is not a bad thing. But, if you are an ADHD adult your anger may last longer, being more intense and get in the way of having the kind of personal professional relationships you want. Learn how to express your anger in a way that works for you. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Anger is not bad. It is a message you are in emotional pain. Learn techniques to help you interpret your anger, the emotional pain. Adopt techniques to both be proactive in minimizing the possibility of your anger erupting and managing it in the moment. Discover how to reflect on your anger and decide what to do with it. See how you can undo your frustration habit. RESOURCES: Book: Loving What Is: Four Questions…