Strategies to help ADHD adults manage emotional intensity, reactivity, and overwhelm — with compassion and skill.
You know it can be hard to make the changes you want to work better with your ADHD. You also know you will need to put effort into maintaining these changes. But you may also hold the perspective exemplified in the quote below from a client (used with permission): I have all these tools, to…
When meeting with prospective clients I often begin with, “Why don’t we start by you telling me what is going on for you now that prompted you to reach out for help.” It’s an invitation, an invitation to tell me their story. The storyline often follows a familiar path, including how their ADHD has affected…
When I thought of writing this article I was surprised to discover I had not directly addressed this question before. After all, I thought, “I’ve been writing for a long time, and this is a core part of what I do. How is it possible I’ve not tackled this question head-on, yet?” Time to remedy…
You won’t be surprised to hear that my clients will on occasion cancel at the last minute because something has come up — an emergency. Such is the life of an ADHD coach, you may say. True. But more often than not, while it may truly feel like a crisis, it’s not. And so these…
You may think your challenges with following through are due to lack of willpower. At least that’s what I hear when I first talk to other adults with ADHD. They will often say, “I know what I need to do but I just don’t do it! I just can’t make myself.” Sound familiar? And, if…
Do adults with ADHD need more self-confidence and self-esteem or self-compassion? In a previous post I claimed that ADHD adults need more self-compassion. I still stand by that. But having a good sense of self is also important to be able to feel good, as well as “do good.” And I know from the questions…
What might be holding you back from achieving what you want right now is your frustration about your ADHD challenges. If it is, your thinking might be something along the lines of, “This isn’t fair! I shouldn’t have to deal with this!” So, maybe you neither accept what is or effectively work toward making a…
“I know what I need to do. I just don’t do it.” I bet you’ve said this a time or two, right? By now you may even be bewildered as to why you either wait until your back is up against the wall before starting a task or shut down and avoid it altogether. After…
Are you ever in a meeting or talking to someone 1-1 and just zone out, missing what they were saying? And, when you realize this, you’re at a loss as to how to find out what you missed. Then maybe you are angry at the person for going on so long or embarrassed you…
Think back to the last time you did something when you felt angry, hurt or frustrated and later thought, “I wish I wouldn’t have done that!!” If you have ever thought that, it may be, like many Adults with ADHD, you have difficulty regulating your emotions. It is not that you have different feelings than…