Strategies to help ADHD adults manage emotional intensity, reactivity, and overwhelm — with compassion and skill.
Do you know how to make decisions with ADHD? Recently a client, in preparation for our session, emailed me a description of his difficulties making decisions (posted below with permission). I’m really struggling to make any decisions in almost any scenario. Like, choosing between 2 things, choosing to get rid of something. I get a sense…
As I was recently reading Amy Cuddy’s book, Presence: Bring Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges it struck me (again) how much adults with ADHD benefit from learning to be present in the critical moments of their lives. I also know just how hard it is for ADHD Adults to do so… But,…
Have you ever wondered about your professional life, “What if people find out I don’t have enough experience, am not that smart, don’t have enough talent…?” If you have ever had these or similar thoughts, know you are not alone. I know because I hear sentiments like these all the time in my work. For…
Managing ADHD emotional dysregulation is possible. Really. Think back to the last time you did something when you felt angry, hurt or frustrated and later thought, “I wish I wouldn’t have done that!!” If you have ever thought that, it may be, like many Adults with ADHD, you have difficulty regulating your emotions. Managing…
Wonder how ADHD adults deal with failure? One mistake we often make when we are learning new skills, adopting new strategies or changing our habits is we think there is a destination. That is, we think we will get to a place and be done, home free, fixed… But the truth is we never get…
When helping my clients figure out how to work with their ADHD and create a life that works for them the topic of shame inevitably arises at some point. In fact, shame is common for ADHD adults. I can’t think of another emotion that is as ubiquitous as shame. And, while everybody feels shame, many…
Are you a perfectionist? If you are, are you aware of the impact it is having on your life? Stumped by either of these questions? Before reading on check out Part 1 about the cost of perfectionism to find out what it means to be a perfectionist and how it may affect you. Then, if…
There are many points of view when it comes to perfectionism. So, let’s start with a definition to make sure we are all on the same page. A perfectionist is someone who is unyielding in their pursuit of unrealistically high standards. It is not about getting 100%, being perfect. Because, really, who can achieve…
As I was reading “Rejection Proof- How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection” by Jia Jiang I knew I wanted to write an article about rejection and ADHD. But I also knew this would not be an easy topic to write about. I wondered, “How would I write an article…
It’s just too much. You have too much to do – too many people making demands, too many decisions to make, too many commitments to keep. And they may conflict with one another! You are stressed to the max. Everyone becomes overwhelmed on occasion, of course. But, in addition… your brain wiring and ADHD symptoms…