Strategies to help ADHD adults manage emotional intensity, reactivity, and overwhelm — with compassion and skill.
If you already read Part 1, you learned about 3 different types of faulty thinking and different ways your ADHD may be related to these thought patterns. In this continuation of the series we’ll look at the hypothetical case of Amir’s negative thinking traps, as well as methods he can use to address his…
What comes up for you when you hear the following common phrase, “don’t believe everything you think?” It is probably something along the lines of, “Yep, heard it before. Got it. Everything I think is not necessarily true.” But have you thought about the specific implications in your life of holding on to faulty…
A couple of weeks ago I was driving through the Boston area during rush hour. I normally try to avoid driving in rush hour. But my parents were visiting, and we were going to my sister’s for dinner. We experienced what you would imagine happens during rush hour in any large urban area. Traffic moving…
Compassion. Anger. Exhuberance. Frustration. Passion. Impulsiveness. Zealousness. These emotions are just a few we associate with people with ADHD. And you may often read how modulating emotions and managing frustrations can be a challenge for adults with ADHD. True. Yet, beyond this, the other issues related to emotions and ADHD are often not adequately…
When trying to create change there are common mistakes that people make. So, of course, as an adult with ADHD, you probably are making some of these same mistakes while you are trying to manage your ADHD. If you are making these missteps now, don’t worry. Because, as you become aware of them, you…
One of the topics that comes up frequently in my work with Adults with ADHD, especially those diagnosed later in life, is shame. Well, no, not usually by name. But rather in the form of “I should be able to…” “I shouldn’t have…” “I am so ?#@*&%!…” You get it. While, of course,…
Anger in itself is not bad, of course. We all get angry at times. It is a signal that something is off, and we need to figure out how to address the issue. Like many adults with ADHD, you may find you feel your emotions, including anger, very intently. As a result you may…
After reading Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success I’ve spent a great deal of time pondering the impact of adopting a particular mindset. I have always said that I’m not very good at drawing, math or singing and a whole host of other activities. At some point I convinced myself that I…
If you have not read my last post, ADHD and The Mindset For Success, I suggest giving that a read before continuing on. In that post I shared a little bit about the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. And suggested that having a growth mindset is a key part of working…
We all have beliefs about how things should be. And after a while we come to believe that is just the way life is. What is most problematic is when we act based on beliefs that limit us from reaching our goals. I know from my own personal experience and work over the years with…