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A Question That Helps Answering your “what if”  questions could help you envision what you will do in different contexts or it could serve to immobilize you. As I was deciding to leave the “comfort” of a full time job with benefits to start my own business, I asked an endless series of what ifs. What if I did not earn enough to support us? What if I did not save enough for retirement? What if I could not find affordable health insurance? What if starting my own business  introduced too much uncertainly into my daughter’s life? What if I failed? What if I didn’t enjoy it?

  Too Many Ideas? Too many ideas are counterproductive when you cannot decide which ones to execute, and you become overwhelmed and come to a dead stop. Too many ideas are counterproductive when you follow all of them, and do not execute any of them to your satisfaction. Too many ideas are counterproductive when you act on them, and forsake what you say is important to you. Too many ideas are counterproductive when the ball of thread called your life is unraveling, and you can’t remember why you started these endeavors. Sometimes it feels like a fire hose let loose! The ideas keep spraying, pushing you back into a corner, until you want to yell, “help!”  The conundrum comes in deciding which to implement.

Does it ever seem like when you are trying to make progress it is two steps forward and one step back? When you have  ADD there is a tendency to think in black and white… it is working or it is not working. Can you think about progress in another way? Experiment Progress is not linear! You have to experiment to see what works and what does not work. It could be that you have not found the strategy that works for you, yet. I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.  – Thomas A. Edison Remember Alternatively, you found the right strategy, but “forgot” to do what you know works for you.  Does this sound familiar? If this is the…

Have you ever forgotten to ask yourself, “Why?” That is, “what is the purpose of doing what I am doing?” For many of us with ADD, this is often times the case. Sometimes we exert significant effort toward a goal, before asking, “Why am I doing this?” What if you earned a degree in economics, attended law schools twice, went back to school to earn a Post-Baccalaureate Teaching Certificate, taught middle and high school, and never asked, “Why”? You might have spent a lot of time working hard to achieve goals that may or may not have been the “right ones.” As you may have surmised already, I did all of the above. While it was certainly a circuitous path to get to where I…